A Letter to Self

In this beautiful letter ‘from the future’, Tom Chapman writes to his younger self when everything felt ‘dark, futile, and cold’. Many thanks to Tom for supporting and contributing to Rotherham Flourish course.

Dear Tom,

I realise you probably won’t believe this, but I am writing to you from the future. I am your future self. Actually, knowing you like I do, you probably will be open to this reality.

I just wanted to provide a bit of reassurance. I realise that everything feels black, futile and cold right now, but there is a future for you beyond this. You ARE capable of recreating yourself in a new light. There is joy beyond this tunnel. And whether you’re able to feel it or not, you are loved, not least by me…that is to say, you (only with a few more wrinkles and scars).

Let this letter be proof that there is light, that time is not linear, and every moment has value.

The sun shines on the black clouds hanging over the domain.”

With love and understanding,



  • Becky Farrell

    Thank you for sharing this Tom. I have written a similar letter to my younger self – and to my older self too – and know what a powerful experience it can be. I’m glad that you can look back/forward with joy overlaying the darkness. And I also very much relate to the Crowded House quote.

  • Flourish Admin

    Comments from our social media:
    “Tom’s older self speaks wisely. These troughs do come to an end & there’s no better feeling than not being depressed anymore”
    “Beautiful photo, love the concept too”
    “Love this message of hope. Also the letter from the future idea- something which @StoryingShef and I have discussed”

    • Bumble

      I love that people speak of wisdom and hope in response to this.

      Wisdom is something we all keep and the hope is the fuel we can use to take us somewhere else.

  • Bumble

    Hi Becky, thanks for taking the time to comment, I really do appreciate it. I never really intended to share this with anyone, but was happy to when asked. I’m glad that it connects with you and it’s great that we can all discuss stuff like this together.

    Happy to know you saw the crowded house quote! I feel bad that there was a typo that half makes it look like they’re my words, which obviously they’re not.

    Either way, four seasons in one day, eh?

    What a mad and beautiful tangle we share in being human.

  • juliet

    I love this Tom. It’s often a source of comfort to me to believe that time is not linear. I wish I could have written a letter to myself as a child, with the wisdom and experience of a life lived another 60 plus years. I am not sure that I would have believed that life could become better and easier though. I love being older!

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